January 29, 2018
One of the prevalent problems today is that young (and old) do not want to invest in solutions, but just want to blame. In the following video Jordan Peterson, Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto says:
By setting out to fix yourself, “maybe you’ll become strong enough to accept that burden, and in that fashion even come to act nobly, and with purpose.” “The proper way to fix the world isn’t to fix the world. There’s no reason to assume that you’re even up to such a task. But you can fix yourself. You’ll do no one any harm by doing so.”
This PragerU video presents some concrete things people can DO, and find positive results in their lives (and the lives of those around them).
— TEXT OF THE TRANSCRIPT:
Blaming others for your problems is a complete waste of time. When you do that, you don’t learn anything.
You can’t grow, and you can’t mature. Thus, you can’t make your life better.
In my three decades as a professor and clinical psychologist, I have learned that there are two fundamental attitudes toward life and its sorrows. Those with the first attitude blame the world. Those with the second ask what they could do differently.
Imagine a couple on the brink of divorce. They’re hurt and angry. The unhappy, bitter husband recalls the terrible things his wife has done, and the reasons he can no longer live with her.
The harried and disillusioned wife, in turn, can describe all the ways her husband let her down. Each has a long list of necessary changes—for the other person.
Their prospects for reconciliation are grim. Why? Because other people aren’t the problem. You’re the problem. You can’t change other people, but you can change yourself. But it’s difficult. It takes courage to change, and it takes discipline. It’s much easier—and much more gratifying to your basest desires—to blame someone else for your misery. Continue reading